
Wee E could use a prayer or two. All three kiddos have gotten sick. Elliot first, with a general cold virus. Nora was next, then Isaac. Nora and Isaac are getting better…much better, but Elliot? Well, Elliot is getting worse. Par for the course, but he is dreadfully ill. I called the pediatrician on Friday morning and they did not want to see him. “Give him fluids,” they gleefully noted. Um?? Since all that Elliot consumes is Pediasure, that shouldn’t be a problem. I laugh at the pediatrician sometimes. They still have yet to retest his liver enzymes, which is precisely why we are seeing another pedi in the group for well baby checks next week. I so hate reactionary responses from doctors.
At any rate, Elliot’s breathing is very labored, the drainage from his nose is terrible and his croupy cough is getting worse. No, he is not retracting yet, or breathing very rapidly, so I do not suspect RSV, but he really could use a break. We’re pushing two weeks with this crud. Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Sick boy.
Friday, August 29, 2008
Awareness.
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Contact: Sarah Schleider
212-763-4369/ 917 921 9889 (cell) sschleider@ndss.org
Governor Sarah Palin of Alaska has been selected as John McCain’s choice for Vice Presidential nominee of the Republican Party. Governor Sarah Palin recently gave birth to her son who has Down syndrome. The Palins knew before their son’s birth that he would have Down syndrome.
Below are tips for the proper use of language for ‘Down syndrome’. The National Down Syndrome Society and the National Down Syndrome Congress encourages all media to use the below language:
• Down vs. Down’s. NDSS and NDSC use the preferred spelling, Down syndrome, rather than Down’s syndrome. While Down syndrome is listed in many dictionaries with both popular spellings (with or without an apostrophe s), the preferred usage in the United States is Down syndrome. This is because an “apostrophe s” connotes ownership or possession. Down syndrome is named for the English physician John Langdon Down, who characterized the condition, but did not have it. The AP Stylebook recommends using “Down syndrome” as well.
• People with Down syndrome should always be referred to as people first. Instead of “a Down syndrome child,” it should be “a child with Down syndrome.” Also avoid “Down’s child” and describing the condition as “Down’s,” as in, “He has Down’s.”
• Down syndrome is a condition or a syndrome, not a disease.
• People “have” Down syndrome, they do not “suffer from” it and are not “afflicted by” it.
• It is clinically acceptable to say “mental retardation,” but you may want to use the more socially acceptable “cognitive disability” or “cognitive impairment.”
Down Syndrome Myths and Truths
Myth: Down syndrome is a rare genetic disorder.
Truth: Down syndrome is the most commonly occurring genetic condition. One in every 733 live births is a child with Down syndrome, representing approximately 5,000 births per year in the United States alone. Today, more than 400,000 people in the United States have Down syndrome.
Myth: People with Down syndrome have a short life span.
Truth: Life expectancy for individuals with Down syndrome has increased dramatically in recent years, with the average life expectancy approaching that of peers without Down syndrome.
Myth: Most children with Down syndrome are born to older parents.
Truth: Most children with Down syndrome are born to women younger than 35-years-old simply because younger women have more children. However, the incidence of births of children with Down syndrome increases with the age of the mother.
Myth: People with Down syndrome are severely “retarded.”
Truth: Most people with Down syndrome have IQs that fall in the mild to moderate range of intellectual disability (formerly known as “retardation”). Children with Down syndrome fully participate in public and private educational programs. Educators and researchers are still discovering the full educational potential of people with Down syndrome.
Myth: Most people with Down syndrome are institutionalized.
Truth: Today people with Down syndrome live at home with their families and are active participants in the educational, vocational, social, and recreational activities of the community. They are integrated into the regular education system and take part in sports, camping, music, art programs and all the other activities of their communities. People with Down syndrome are valued members of their families and their communities, contributing to society in a variety of ways.
Myth: Parents will not find community support in bringing up their child with Down syndrome.
Truth: In almost every community of the United States there are parent support groups and other community organizations directly involved in providing services to families of individuals with Down syndrome.
Myth: Children with Down syndrome must be placed in segregated special education programs.
Truth: Children with Down syndrome have been included in regular academic classrooms in schools across the country. In some instances they are integrated into specific courses, while in other situations students are fully included in the regular classroom for all subjects. The current trend in education is for full inclusion in the social and educational life of the community. Increasingly, individuals with Down syndrome graduate from high school with regular diplomas, participate in post-secondary academic and college experiences and, in some cases, receive college degrees.
Myth: Adults with Down syndrome are unemployable.
Truth: Businesses are seeking young adults with Down syndrome for a variety of positions. They are being employed in small- and medium-sized offices: by banks, corporations, nursing homes, hotels and restaurants. They work in the music and entertainment industry, in clerical positions, childcare, the sports field and in the computer industry. People with Down syndrome bring to their jobs enthusiasm, reliability and dedication.
Myth: People with Down syndrome are always happy.
Truth: People with Down syndrome have feelings just like everyone else in the population. They experience the full range of emotions. They respond to positive expressions of friendship and they are hurt and upset by inconsiderate behavior.
Myth: Adults with Down syndrome are unable to form close interpersonal relationships leading to marriage.
Truth: People with Down syndrome date, socialize, form ongoing relationships and marry.
Myth: Down syndrome can never be cured.
Truth: Research on Down syndrome is making great strides in identifying the genes on chromosome 21 that cause the characteristics of Down syndrome. Scientists now feel strongly that it will be possible to improve, correct or prevent many of the problems associated with Down syndrome in the future.
For more information visit: www.ndss.org or www.ndsccenter.org
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Under par.
The school year is upon us, and with that, come the germs.
At present, strep, vomiting flu bug and a multitude of viruses are all wreaking havoc on Nora’s grade school classmates.
Indeed.
We’re all sick (sans my husband).
The boys have chest colds, ear infections and the like. Nora has a nasty cold as well. This is a first for Isaac. He’ll be ONE (yep, ONE) on September 7 and this is the first time he has become ill. Strong boy, but, oh my goodness, is he an unpleasant little fiend of a child when he’s sick. Elliot? Takes it like a champ, as always!
And me? I’m simply dog-tired. Have my own set of health junk going on as well, but won’t divulge here online.
Prayers that my kiddos are on the mend soon.
Above mentioned – primary reason for lack of posting. Back on my game soon, I trust. Glass? Still half full. It has to remain that way, you know.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Saturday, August 16, 2008
For you...my beloved boy.
I did this for my boy, and the others who are blessed as being perfect. It has been said by a very prominent figure of a dear young man that died recently that our children have a one way ticket to Heaven. I couldn’t agree more.
Unfortunately, but probably for the better, our local paper did not link the piece on their site, but it did run front page today.
And, it made it all worthwhile when a few local mothers called me today – not mothers who have differently-abled children, but just mothers. They said that they bought extra copies so they could send them to their friends. They also noted that they would encourage everyone that they knew NOT to go to the movie. It has been a really good day – a good day indeed.
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Sticks and stones will break my bones, and words will ALWAYS hurt me!
On the merry-go-round as children, we all have heard the phrase. Really, though, we should, as a society, be intent in today’s day and age to affirm the realization that words DO hurt.
There will be those that claim that personal power is lacking. There are those of the gay and lesbian movement that claim the labels of “fag” and/or “queer” publicly. We have also heard people of the African American race calling each other “nigger.” It could be looked at as a healthy response, I suppose – a paradigm of empowerment. It simply makes it impossible, I also suppose, for homophobic or racist bashers to trouble either group with these malevolent, horrid words, simply because certain individuals (not all--but some) have declared that the words now “belong” to them. They have been forced to do this. Sadly forced.
But, in the case of the word “retard,” I highly doubt that one will find two intellectually disabled individuals calling each other “retarded.” That is where the line is drawn.
Indeed, it is easy to say that the “name caller” is feeling fragile or inferior, therefore the insults occur. But, is dear Ben Stiller weak? Is the powerhouse, DreamWorks, feeble? Au contraire!
Why did they hit below the belt with freedom of open speech? Why take advantage of said American right?
Comic satire? A spoof of sorts?
I beg to differ. And, so does my son. But he, of course, does not have the words to do so as of yet.
A dear friend and many others have written very powerful words with regard to the new movie “Tropic Thunder.” Do go here to read more. And, please, for the sake of Elliot and many, many others who have been sanctified as being perfect in God’s eyes, boycott this movie and all that it stands for.
Full Retard? Dear God, what’s next?
Monday, August 11, 2008
A sweet award.
Sweet Steph gave me a lovely award. Many thanks to you, dear friend. I pass said award on to the following delightful women, listing also the “rules.”
Put the logo on your blog
Link to the person you received your award from
Nominate at least 7 other blogs
Put links to those blogs on your site
Leave messages on the blogs you've nominated
Amy, for being such a dear person with a heart of gold.
Carey, for facing the challenge of all challenges with such vigor.
Melissa, because I love you and your children.
Pam, (sorry, had to pass it on to her too, Steph) because you are simply one of the strongest, and kindest, women that I know.
Renee, because…well, you keep your chin up through thick and thin.
Miss Jessica Green, because you are to be admired.
Kele, because you reach out, and I am lucky to have you as a friend.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
What’s in a date?




Yesterday was Elliot’s second birthday. For that reason alone it was a great day. What's more, it was a day celebrated universally with the opening ceremonies of our great Olympic games. Reflecting “the value of harmony” as indicated by the “One World One Dream” tagline of this year’s games, the day stood for a “bright future” for ALL mankind.
The number eight in general, I have come to discover, is also considered to be very lucky by numerologists, particularly in the Asian cultures. Interestingly enough, many Chinese women elected to induce their babies on this date and many scheduled Caesarean sections…just, well, because 8-8-08 is an exceptionally lucky day.
Elliot was born on 8-8-06. Two years ago, I know, but he has two “8s” in place. That counts for something, I think.
Two years ago, I was not considering myself to be at all lucky. Quite the contrary. But today, I laugh. For the gift that I have been given is not given to many people: perhaps one in 800 or so. There is that charming “8” again. If I had known then what I know now, I would never have second guessed his birthday, albeit two months before “schedule.” God knew what He was doing.
And, He knew what he was doing yesterday too. On a day that the world celebrates diversity of culture in general, I too celebrated Elliot’s diversity.
Ironic?
No.
We did have a beautiful day. A tremendous highlight, of course, was this. God bless my friend, Pam, her dear (and so very talented) husband, Andy, and their beloved kiddos. I cannot begin to tell them just how touched I am by their gesture. Thank you to everyone also, particularly my mom, who made it an even more extraordinary day.
Extraordinary. Across the globe.
Friday, August 8, 2008
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Momma loves her baby boy.

Two years ago tonight, I was sitting on the sofa, watching television and eating chips. Typical summer evening in my pregnant state. Jeff and I had eaten Chinese food earlier in the evening. I had terrible tummy pains, and attributed it to dinner. I went to bed early, only to be awakened by more than a stomach ache around 11 p.m.
I told Jeff that I thought that I may be in labor.
He laughed.
"Go back to bed."
I said we had to leave and head to the hospital. I was 32-weeks pregnant. We loaded Nora in the car and headed out fast. I simply thought that I would be told that it was merely the Chinese food, and that I should not be taking in so darn much sodium.
We arrived at the hospital only to find out that I was 6 cm dilated. I was not going home.
I remember it very clearly.
The first words out of my mouth when the nurses looked at each other, horrified, were "OH SH*@!"
Jeff's smug behavior quickly turned...and he was immediately humbled.
I sent Jeff home with a laundry list of things that I needed. He took dear Nora, fast asleep, to his parent’s home.
I was told that I had an infection and could not have any pain medication. I was to deliver sans any epidural.
Elliot arrived shortly after 7 a.m. the next morning…
two
years
ago.
What a cherub.
Monday, August 4, 2008
Magic Marker Monday - For Elliot

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Our daughter, Nora, is quite talented artistically. She forever tells me that she will help Elliot and “He can be as good as me, mommy.” I told her of Magic Marker Monday, and mentioned that I would be working with Elliot weekly on his art. She said that she’d like to display this recent masterpiece for him, in honor of him in fact.
Nora has such a big heart.
The unicorn really works here, you see.
For, as she stated, “Elliot is unique; he has Down syndrome which makes him different; but, it is better to be different than just like everyone else.”
Just like the unicorn.
It is typical like a horse, but “Mom, it flies and has such a lovely horn.”
“Wouldn’t it be great if Elliot could fly?”

















